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How Will Divorce Impact You?

How Will Divorce Impact You?

How Will Divorce Impact You?

The end of a marriage is a stressful and difficult time for all involved. While every divorce is different, there are some commonalities among most divorces that most couples should be prepared for as they start the divorce process. If you’ve decided that it’s time to end your marriage, then here are 7 things you should be aware of:

Divorce isn’t like it is on TV.

Most of what people know about divorce comes from TV and movies. These are rarely accurate depictions of divorce proceedings. What you usually see is dramatic courtroom scenes with one spouse being the clear winner at the end. Divorces can be highly emotional for sure, but they can also be tedious, with lots of paperwork, negotiations, and other details to sort through.

Don’t take advice from friends or family.

Your sibling, parents, or best friend may give you unsolicited advice about what should and shouldn’t happen in your divorce based on their experience with divorce. Your best bet is to ignore that advice, no matter how well-meaning your friends are. Every divorce is different. Instead, rely on the advice you will get from your attorney, mental health professionals, and financial consultants, all of whom are familiar with the law, and the specifics of your case.

There’s no winner in divorce.

While divorce may be the right decision for you and your spouse, avoid the temptation of wanting to “beat” your spouse in court. There’s seldom a true winner in divorce. Rarely does one spouse get everything they want. Know that negotiation and compromise will be required. You and your divorce lawyer should discuss which items on your list of “wants” you might be willing to give up in favor of a quicker, less stressful divorce.

There are alternatives to court.

Most people think all divorces end up in court. In fact, there are alternative ways to resolve divorce cases. One method is “mediation” in which a mediator (neutral third party specially trained to work in divorce cases) facilitates face-to-face negotiations between divorcing spouses and helps them work out mutual agreements. The mediator will often recommend that each spouse consult with a divorce attorney while the mediation process is proceeding and oftentimes you can attend mediation with the attorneys.

You’ll have to provide a ton of documents.

Examples of documents that are almost always needed in a divorce action include tax returns, proof of monthly income, credit card statements, mortgage statements, utility bills, a list of marital assets and debts, and copies of any and all documents related to checking and savings accounts, as well as retirement account information and other investment accounts and properties.

You’re bound to get overwhelmed.

Divorces are typically highly emotional and long, drawn out processes. You’re bound to get overwhelmed and might be tempted to make quick decisions about important topics (e.g., selling a house, child custody) just to get things over with. Never make any decisions without talking it through with your divorce lawyer first. Also, consider talking to a mental health professional or a trusted spiritual leader for emotional support during this difficult time.

The right divorce attorney makes all the difference.

A good divorce attorney won’t sugarcoat the situation for you. He or she will give you the straight facts about your situation and how to best proceed. Ask around for recommendations and only hire a divorce attorney who has a stellar reputation. They may charge more, but you’ll definitely get what you pay for.

Are you about to start the divorce process with your spouse? Are you already involved in a divorce? Speaking with a divorce attorney about your options before you do anything else is essential.

We are here to listen, advise, and tenacious defend. Our #1 goal is to guide you to your new tomorrow with the most resources and options at your disposal.

Do you have questions? Take advantage of our free consultation today!

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Divorce is downright expensive. Let’s be clear on this.  Conflict is one of two factors contributing to the cost of divorce, complexity being the other.  A key difference between those two is that conflict is far more subjective and emotional. How the two of you get along will directly affect how much a professional will charge you. Bear that in mind as you read on to learn about the cost of divorce: with or without an attorney.

What factors contribute to the cost of divorce?

The one immutable fact here is that there will be a cost to your divorce. While we’ve pointed out that no two divorces are alike, there are still a few factors that will impact that cost. 

  • Conflict. What is a divorce after all, if not a conflict? Its resolution is what makes the difference. Will there be a degree of discord that will hamper proceedings? Or will there be cooperation? So many key choices and decisions stand to be affected.
  • Complexity. There can be a lot of moving parts to the divorce “machine”. What sort of details or intricacies will each of your respective lives bring to the equation? The complexities of your case must be sorted out by a capable divorce attorney before you can have an idea of what this will cost you.
  • Location. What state or county do you live in? In this case, we are only talking about New Jersey. This state, it’s laws and rules, will have its own contributing factors just as any state in the union would.
  • Who and how?  Who will be handling your case? In other words, the attorney you hire will obviously have input when it comes to what your divorce will cost you.  Furthermore, the divorce method or option you choose will make a big difference.

(ReadThe Cost of Divorce in New Jersey: Alimony)

What does divorce cost WITHOUT an attorney?

Individuals who choose to seek divorce without legal counsel are most likely hoping it will make the process inexpensive, easy and fast. What many learn, too late of course, is that those three words can be rather costly. Simple details tend to slip through the cracks without professional oversight. Those details are not cheap and could end up costing more to “fix” in the long run.

  • Life insurance can act as security for child support obligations in a divorce. Failure to attend to this could lead to financial hardship should a parent die without life insurance.
  • Terminology is the domain of an attorney. An attorney will know the difference between sole legal custody and joint legal custody. Should you not, the dramatic difference between the two types of custody will prove to be a major setback.
  • Resuming your maiden name during divorce and everything is fine and dandy. Just try to do so after the divorce is over and strap in for more loss of time and money.

Even distributing retirement accounts comes into play. You two had planned to share your future, your whole future, together. Don’t forget this because that is the full extent of what divorce can cover. Attempting a divorce without an attorney is called a DIY, or Do It Yourself, divorce. DIY start at $300, which is just the court’s filing fees, and could be more depending on how complex your case is. Should you decide not to hire an attorney, you may find yourself relying on the internet or a software program to sort out the legal and financial issues that arise. The most expensive part of a DIY divorce is the money you spend in the future trying to address issues not in your Judgment of Divorce or change terms agreed to that no longer favor you.  (ReadOnline Divorce Is No Substitute)

What does divorce cost WITH an attorney?

You’ve decided to contact an attorney.  Let us briefly address what sort of expenses you are looking at. It is most important to remember that once you are represented by an attorney, you are on the clock. He or she will be communicating on your behalf. This includes phone calls, e-mails., letters, meetings, court appearances and the like.Every occurrence of communication in that list is a chargeable item, which is determined once you call this office and set an appointment. There will be a retainer to discuss up front. Guess how that figure is arrived at? Don’t be surprised when your old friends ‘conflict’ and ‘complexity’ show up. A lawyer will determine what he or she needs for the retainer based on the issues, the ability of the parties to communicate, the complexity of the case and a general feel based on experience of how the case will go.  So when you call this office to make an appointment, consider your two C’s: conflict and complexity. Clearly, many a calculation in this process includes these two variables. Try to avoid all figurative thinking when asking what these matters cost and try to remember that all cases are different and may have different costs!

Fabrikant Law, LLC prides itself on providing exceptional professional and personalized service. For assistance with your family law matter, please contact us today.

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